Oy. Where to Start?

So to be fair, I’ve heard Michelle Obama jokingly refer to her husband as her ‘baby daddy’ before. But does that put Michelle Malkin’s chyron thing in bounds?

And can we talk about ‘baby mama/daddy/fahvuh’ for a second? I’d heard those terms growing up and didn’t really find them offensive until I got older. When I did take umbrage, it was out of some kind of class-based racial embarrassment, which is never a good look.

Is it possible that the original intent of the phrase was simply descriptive — the woman with whom I had a child and to whom i’m not married — and wasn’t necessarily weighted down with all sorts of negative connotations until it was propagated out into the larger culture? I wouldn’t rule that out completely. When Michelle Obama used it to describe Barack Obama, it was good-natured and playful. Obviously, Malkin & Co. are trafficking in the same tired-ass, coded deviant-black-pathology bullshit, but let’s forget her and them for a second.

When black folks use it amongst each other, do you have a problem with it?

(H/T Brokey.)

G.D.

G.D.

Gene "G.D." Demby is the founder and editor of PostBourgie. In his day job, he blogs and reports on race and ethnicity for NPR's Code Switch team.
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  • tam

    What is so funny about this, is that the bulk of the discussion is about unsubstantiated attacks against Michelle Obama. I guess referring to her as Obama’s Baby Mama isn’t REALLY an attack in their eyes.

    Utter. Ignorance.

  • Good question. I have no problem when we use it. I actually don’t mind when anyone uses it, as a descriptive term. But that’s not what Fox was doing.